Hey there moms, soon-to-be moms, new moms, single moms, career moms, stay at home moms, and all the moms in between! There are a lot of roles a mother has, but one thing is for sure– adding a child into the world is no easy task.
For most, being a parent is a balancing act. It’s not a perfect one either. There are challenges, from time management to calculating expenses, and all the little things in between. The list can get long really quickly!
With everything you have to juggle, it is quite common to burnout. In fact, A poll conducted in 2018 showed that out of 2000 parents from the United States and Canada, 60% had experienced burnout.
Have you ever burned out before? It’s okay to admit if you have. If you’re not quite sure, some common signs of burnout include:
- Extreme and overwhelming exhaustion
- Emotionally distancing yourself from the child(ren)
- Difficulty focusing at work
- Feeling like a “bad” parent; worthless, ineffective, lacking
- Intense guilt
- Emotional outburst unrelated to circumstances
- Questioning your life, your goals, your choices, your ability, your purpose.
- Dreaming of getting away from the home if you are a stay-at-home parent
Can Burnout Be Avoided?
Though many mothers experience burnout, it doesn’t have to be inevitable. In many ways, burnout can be avoided by taking steps to care for yourself and by lowering your expectations.
Lowering your expectations is easier said than done. Society puts pressure on us moms to be perfect, but the reality is perfection isn’t attainable. You can still be the best mom you can be for your kids while realizing it doesn’t have to be perfect.
It’s important to surround yourself with people that you can be honest with. Find companionship in those who won’t judge you for not having the house clean, or the laundry done, or forgetting to send your child to school with their homework once. Confide in them about how imperfect your life is, and praise yourself about the fact that you are still the glue keeping things together.
The only person you are harming when trying to force everything to be perfect is yourself. Stop putting the unwanted pressure on your life, and try taking things one day at a time.
Take Time to Care for Yourself
I know schedules get busy and even thinking about trying to fit one more thing in can seem impossible, but carving out time for yourself is what will keep you going for the years ahead.
Make it a priority by doing things like scheduling it into your calendar. Just like you’d put down your child’s soccer practice Saturday at 2:00, find a moment of free time and block it out for you. It doesn’t matter if it’s weekly, bi-weekly, or even monthly, just find the time in your schedule and book it.
What do you do with this time for yourself? Well, that’s entirely up to you. You can go to therapy, start journaling, going to the gym, getting coffee with a friend, going on a date with your significant other, or taking a walk. You can also try meditation, getting your nails or hair done, and massage therapy.
Massage Therapy as Self-Care
The stress we have is carried in our bodies from day today. We can feel it in the tenseness in our necks, backs, legs, and even in our heads from headaches and migraines. Stress can also cause problems with digestion, mood, metabolism, and sleep.
Regular massage has been proven to help combat all the negative side effects of stress, which makes it sort of the holy grail of self-care. It helps mentally, physically and emotionally.
Some key benefits of massage therapy include:
- Reduced anxiety
- Higher quality of sleep
- Decreases frequency of headaches
- Increases the immune system
- Helps with digestion
- Reduces aches and pains
- Increases “feel good” hormones
- Minimizes pain
In addition to these benefits, massage also brings us a calming sensation due to touch. It gives us a sense of comfort and caring, which all of us need, especially moms. You can enjoy a quiet time away from home while benefiting from the healing properties massage gives to us.